Archive | April 2013

Springy

Okay. So spring time is here in Beijing, not for long I guess. Facebook is an excellent platform to keep in contact with your friends all over the world and ironically, it’s also a good source to make frustrate you over littlest things like the luxury of eating char Kway tiao, Hokkien mee, laksa, nasi lemak etc. And recently I get really zeaaalous of friends who travelled either Korea or Japan OR BOTH just to catch Sakuraaaaaaaa. Some even caught geisha walking on the streets of Kyoto.

RIGHT. All I have here in Beijing is POLLUTED SMOGGY AIR, spits, and BIRD FLU.

Yay, bird flu.

So one day… THAT one day when the sky was ridiculously blue and clear of smog, I HAD TO–I JUST HAD TO grab my camera and cabbed down to 玉渊潭(Yu yuan tan park) where it’s known for its Sakura blossoms…FLOWWWWERRS.

And yes, I get my fair share of Sakuraaaaaaaas raining down my ginormous head. very cool.

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Are you cheating

I had a Singaporean gathering on the first day of the QingMing holiday. Lest you didn’t already know, china has like three days of public holidays for it. So you know, it’s unlike the situation here in China where you have more males than females, Singapore has generally more females than males. and being a pea sized country, there’re only that much of Singaporean you could find in China, let alone studying in the same school.

some bailed on us and ended up there were only like four of us—-3f1m. lol
So the point of this post is not about the gathering itself, it’s like one of the topics we touched on.

I forgot what we were talking about, I just randomly (as usual) threw something really random out. I asked, “So you know, I’ve watched this show and there was this couple went to a marriage psychologist to try and salvage their marriage. The problem they are having is that when they are having sex, the wife screamed “Tom!” out loud and the husband stopped and was like, “…who did you just screamEd?!” The wife told the psychologist that the “Tom” was Tom Cruise, and that she did not cheat on him. So what do you ladies think? Cheated or not ?”

Both of my friends answered— NO.

One even said, “It’s considered no when I think about it, but maybe when he thought of it…then maybe or yes!”

Interesting topic, yes?

More often than not, we (for me at the very least) feel that it’s harder for us to really cheat than men. In this case, I’m trying to eliminate the possibilities of a slut and a Casanova. Just a normal girl dating a normal guy. I would think or tend to think that normally a girl needs to be emotionally attached to have sex(I already said to exclude those who think ONS is fine) and that guy can just have sex for sex–not emotionally attached.

So the question is, does thinking of someone else considered cheating?

I think it’s treading on a very fine line between “is cheating” and “not cheating”. If let say you tell me M thought of Jennifer Lopez when he’s in bed with me, maybe I’ll be like “what?so you think I’m not as pretty as her Izzit.”–jokingly. And I won’t even harp another second on it. BUT if m was that stupid to tell me, “Kiki, I thought of my ex GF when I was having sex with you” then trust me, I will castrate him for 1)insulting me, 2)still thinking of his ex gf, 3)for being a jerk to me.

So I guess it’s down to how you look at it? Some would say they would rather you have meaningless physical sex with someone else with no string attached than you keep thinking of them emotionally and not having physical sex.

Well if say m watches porn, I MAY not be happy. Just saying,

Will there ever be a standard answer for this question? Maybe not.

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Moving to the Third

Thirty-first of March two thousand thirteen was our Second Year together.

Friends of mine could have already seen my photos on all sort of possible awesome social platforms but I did a collage specially for this blog entry. Not very fantastic, I dug up last year’s photo which was shit. I have no idea why we cannot have decent photos on our anniversary…two years, we had shit photos taken. So cool.

M was sick last year for our anniversary and we didnt had a good time just because I was being anal to him (lol). So I kinda looked forward to this year’s anniversary. We had our anniversary dinner one day earlier this year because we both wanted to have a relaxing sunday to prepare ourselves for work the next day. We went to cafe de la poste (i dont even know if that is correct).

Tbh, i really had a good time time there. (well, I’m not commenting on the environment—-it’s a bar&restaurant—-so you know what I mean.) Food was really good. We had both Chef and Best Steak. —- Will do a review on it later— Focus on my anniversary please.

Like I told M, it’s so bloody cliche to say –Look time flies!– Cliche are meant to be cliche and I have to say it.. TIME FLEW BY LIKE A LITTLE GIRL LOST GRIP OF HER PRIZED BALLOONS–想追也追不回来– All happened too fast to even know what’s happening. Does it happen to you too?

Two years together: We spent three months together at the beginning, Close to seven-eight months apart(no seeing each other in between), back on 9th March 2012 till now.

The first three months together was a total bliss, we fought only about his ex-girlfriend. Eight months apart, we fought the first 5 months about insecurities, about distance, about uncertainties, about everything. From 9th March 2012 till now, we fought almost about everything the first three months and once we got used about having each other back again, we are more blissful than others.

It has been more than a year that M is back together with me and since that we had never looked back, or at least I never looked back. Long distance relationship seemed like they happened a decade ago, we got so used of having each other around.

Most of my friends asked this question at least once, ” Do you really think you could spend your life with M?”

It seems a little immature to say YAH YESSA immediately and No is definitely not an answer.

I tried to be a lil more realistic about the future. I always asked M silly questions like, ” So what if one day your ‘soulmate’ really appears right in front of you?”, “what happened when one day you met someone who gave you that right feel?” etc. Believe me, I’ve asked every possible permutations of such questions and more often than not, I also rolled my eyes when M gave me politically correct answer.

On a deeper note, it takes a lot to trust someone. I’ve used more time to learn to trust M than I took to write a chinese essay lol.

So my answer to that question is : I don’t know where life will bring me or us. I will do my best to keep us together, I will overcome any obstacles that comes into my way or our ways. At least on my part, I will never leave and will always be at that spot.

Sounds cheesy. I think you would know or feel me if you know.

Love is just like that. Able to sacrifice able to accept and able to hold one’s hand when the road has no lights. Because M gave me that sense of security, even just by playing his iPad beside me, even just by sleeping soundly.

Nights earthlings

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